I’m a 6 out of 10 at best in looks (aka average). I got 1 match per month. By hacking Tinder (took 50 to 100 hours to figure it out what works for me), I got 100 to 150 matches per month. Sure, you could have an even crazier dating life than I would have, but I am super happy with this and might have found a GF through it (too early to tell but one might have that potential). It took 6 months. Over the past 10 years I have been single for 10 months in total (3 long-term relationships).
So yes, again, that’s a far cry from what you get, but I have about one epic romantic encounter per three months and could have sex once per month by women I’d find attractive. So 33% of my bed partners are experienced as epic.
So yea, this is what happens when you don’t accept your fate and rebel against it: a dating life that I am happy with.
Conventional attractive guys have it way easier than I do, I am forced to build character by taking charge of my dating life and hacking it. That’s a fine trade-off by me. It’s also a forced trade-off, c’est la vie.
The real tough part was age 17 to 21. It took 4 years of active social skills improvement and self-improvement to lose my virginity to a woman that I would find attractive. For the first 3 years I wasn’t even able to kiss a girl. I was in the category: get laid or die trying (dramatizing here: I mean find a GF that I am happy with and she with me, the die trying part is accurate). I should have been an incel, really. But I refused and after 3 years enough clicked to make the topic of dating workable. It was very hard, but I came from the difficulty level called: it’s impossible. So very hard mode was an easy mode for me by that time
Anyone feeling stuck, feel free to email (in my profile). I don’t check it often but I know the pain and if I can help, I will
So yes, again, that’s a far cry from what you get, but I have about one epic romantic encounter per three months and could have sex once per month by women I’d find attractive. So 33% of my bed partners are experienced as epic.
So yea, this is what happens when you don’t accept your fate and rebel against it: a dating life that I am happy with.
Conventional attractive guys have it way easier than I do, I am forced to build character by taking charge of my dating life and hacking it. That’s a fine trade-off by me. It’s also a forced trade-off, c’est la vie.
The real tough part was age 17 to 21. It took 4 years of active social skills improvement and self-improvement to lose my virginity to a woman that I would find attractive. For the first 3 years I wasn’t even able to kiss a girl. I was in the category: get laid or die trying (dramatizing here: I mean find a GF that I am happy with and she with me, the die trying part is accurate). I should have been an incel, really. But I refused and after 3 years enough clicked to make the topic of dating workable. It was very hard, but I came from the difficulty level called: it’s impossible. So very hard mode was an easy mode for me by that time
Anyone feeling stuck, feel free to email (in my profile). I don’t check it often but I know the pain and if I can help, I will