Since I am a heavy procrastinator myself I just wanted to drop this here http://www.structuredprocrastination.com/ It's also been made into a short book (same author), titled "The Art of Procrastination".
There is no "one book fix all" and the self help book market is full of superficial crap, but this book has helped me reshape my thinking some. To see my own personal struggle with procrastination in a far more relaxed manner, and with that, even life itself to some degree. It has helped me a lot. Maybe the essay does not speak to you. For me it describes me perfectly, and I thrive in chaos (you should see my desk), but by embracing and admitting it, it actually can make me productive.
I think it's unlikely for people to change much beyond the age of 20 (in fundamental ways, I would even suggest _much_ earlier). If you are a sensitive introvert you just never will be a brace extrovert. If you are messy, and a procrastinator, forcing yourself into being orderly and structured, that won't solve anything and you will constantly fail.
In the end work with your weaknesses, give them a positive spin, and start being more relaxed. You are who you are, and there is always room for improvement. Huge, fundamental change just won't happen. And there is no need for it. You are who you are, and that's alright.
Accept that, and then work with it. And being more relaxed, less stressful, less apologetic for who you are, more honest about it, that makes it possible in the first place to improve yourself in meaningful and lasting ways. It won't be fundamental, but little things go a long way. The rest is acceptance and humility.
There is no "one book fix all" and the self help book market is full of superficial crap, but this book has helped me reshape my thinking some. To see my own personal struggle with procrastination in a far more relaxed manner, and with that, even life itself to some degree. It has helped me a lot. Maybe the essay does not speak to you. For me it describes me perfectly, and I thrive in chaos (you should see my desk), but by embracing and admitting it, it actually can make me productive.
I think it's unlikely for people to change much beyond the age of 20 (in fundamental ways, I would even suggest _much_ earlier). If you are a sensitive introvert you just never will be a brace extrovert. If you are messy, and a procrastinator, forcing yourself into being orderly and structured, that won't solve anything and you will constantly fail.
In the end work with your weaknesses, give them a positive spin, and start being more relaxed. You are who you are, and there is always room for improvement. Huge, fundamental change just won't happen. And there is no need for it. You are who you are, and that's alright.
Accept that, and then work with it. And being more relaxed, less stressful, less apologetic for who you are, more honest about it, that makes it possible in the first place to improve yourself in meaningful and lasting ways. It won't be fundamental, but little things go a long way. The rest is acceptance and humility.