As someone who has been down this route, IMO taking the lead, being good-humoured and having sex with a shitload of women is _entirely_ mutually exclusive with not respecting them. It's exactly this kind of thinking that a) makes women feel ashamed about their sexuality (thus making it harder for everyone involved to get laid, especially women) and b) casts the 'seduction community' in an overwhelmingly negative light.

And paying for it is bad for your soul dude.