>Meanwhile, less than average looking or low status men date even less than they used to. The whole incel movement will just get worse if the whole world goes poly because men are generally less picky than women and are happier with lots of casual partners.
This seems to be saying that women should be required to "settle" for lousy men, instead of going for better men and accepting that they have to share them.
If a woman has a choice between being a co-wife for a guy who's reasonably attractive and well-employed and treats his partners really well, or a guy who's a drunk bum but will be monogamous with her, which is the more sensible choice?
Also, another factor I think is being ignored is the fact that, over the age of 30, there's more women than men (and this gets progressively worse as the age increases). Monogamy necessarily leads to a lot of unpartnered women.
I actually agree with you here to some extent. Women that are happy to be a co-wife of (or in a triad with) a man I think are, generally speaking, better off. You're certainly right that there are a lot of single women over 30; though in some respects I think they got the worse deal in life. They reached peak mating potential at around 25-29, and lowering standards is so much more difficult than raising them.
Though in some respects you're setting up a bit of a false dichotomy. It isn't that women can get these great guys now with no downside. The reality on the ground looks a lot more like women that want a single, longterm partner who is fully faithful to them find that the very attractive poly men that they date never want to settle down. They want to continue to be open to other relationships. I'm not sure if women really win in this hypothetical future. Most of the high status poly men I know end up with a hot young girlfriend and an appropriately aged wife and tension builds as time goes on.
I want to make it clear that none of what I'm saying is firmly grounded in a clear understanding of the truth. I'm trying to express the muddy way I understand things without assuming too much. I'm sure I'm missing part of this, though I'm not sure which part.
This seems to be saying that women should be required to "settle" for lousy men, instead of going for better men and accepting that they have to share them.
If a woman has a choice between being a co-wife for a guy who's reasonably attractive and well-employed and treats his partners really well, or a guy who's a drunk bum but will be monogamous with her, which is the more sensible choice?
Also, another factor I think is being ignored is the fact that, over the age of 30, there's more women than men (and this gets progressively worse as the age increases). Monogamy necessarily leads to a lot of unpartnered women.